Don’t Gaslight My Humanity

Reading Time: 2 minutes Over-explaining can be a trauma response to being gaslit in childhood. When I figured that out, I worked to stop doing so. If I already told the truth and was clear, there is nothing else to say and over-explaining leads to distortion. Off of that nonsense. – Tweet by @viriyaakarunaa I love this quote. And, I’d add this addition: over-explaining can also be a…

10 Books about Anti-Black Racism that Every Church Library Should Have

Reading Time: 5 minutes This is not a comprehensive or exhaustive list. Primary Reading: The Color of Compromise: The Truth about the American Church’s Complicity in Racism by Jemar Tisby For me, this is one of the most important books on race and the church that I have ever read. Tisby provides a searing and critical historical survey of how the (Evangelical) church has perpetuated racism. I appreciated…

Not Everything Will Heal Quickly

Reading Time: 4 minutes “Not everything will heal quickly,” A few weeks ago, I had just finished telling my therapist about grieving in the age of Trump, and how grief has impacted my own journey as I continue to lean into my own racial consciousness (and in turn, lean out of harmful relationships), when she said these words (among others) to me. Not everything will heal quickly. What…